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Dealing With Drama

Drama: we all say we don’t want it but inevitably it’s going to sneak into your life from time to time...


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We all say we don’t want it but inevitably it’s going to sneak into your life from time to time. Drama can show up in a lot of different ways; it can be squabbling between family members, a disagreement with your significant other, misunderstandings with colleagues and co-workers, or petty jealousies between friends. Sometimes you can even be the source of your own drama; beating yourself up for perceived mistakes, obsessing about what someone said, over-thinking an otherwise small issue, or worrying incessantly about things that are beyond your control.

Get rid of it!

Whatever the source, drama can momentarily take over your life and drain your energy. While some things definitely take time to resolve, you’ll be healthier and happier if you can spend time dealing with drama to get rid of it swiftly.

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Actionable Steps


Stop talking about it

Catch yourself when you have the urge to gossip or rehash every little detail. “Dealing with drama” this way doesn’t produce any solutions. In fact, it only causes more drama.


Tell the truth

Lies and untruths overly complicate thing and always lead to drama. Be truthful with yourself and others. It says “I respect you enough and respect me enough that we both get to make our own decision.” Lying is simply not wanting to deal with the other person’s reaction and trying to control the situation.


Identify triggers when dealing with drama

If certain people or places push your buttons, stay away from them if you possibly can. If not, get some help and find a way to work through it in a healthy manner.


Look for solutions

Often in life we are conditioned to look for what’s wrong, focusing on the problem and not the solution. This only keeps you unhappy and stuck. If something or someone is causing a lot of drama in your life, try to deal with it as quickly as you can and then just move on.


Don’t play ball

It takes two teams to have a game, don’t be one of them. Do what you must to deal with the situation, but walk away from the drama. You’ll give yourself and the problem the best chance for success and resolution.


Deal with it

You know that ugly, unpleasant, uncomfortable situation you’ve been avoiding? Chances are it’s not going to resolve itself. And when things fester too long, suddenly you have drama. Adult hard and just deal with it!
Look for any causes and solutions to drama in your own life, and then take the steps to clean it up. Movies and books are great for drama, so enjoy it, and leave it there!

About the Author

Hunter Phoenix

Hunter Phoenix

Certified Professional Life Coach

Hunter has an M.A. in Psychology and is a Certified Professional Life Coach. For more than 10 years, she coached clients to find and follow their passion and live their best lives. Hunter has also done youth mentoring work with Covenant House, realizing that this is such a challenging and important time in life.
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