First Date Ideas For Young Adults

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Dating not only plays an important role in relationships, but also in life. The goal of dating isn’t just to find a love interest. It is also to make genuine connections with others – through shared experiences. A first date is especially important because it determines if there will be a second one. So, you need first date ideas that help you give a good impression. The first date also sets the stage for future interactions between you and the other person. But, before you can do anything on that first date, you have to break the ice.

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Break the ice. It helps establish the tone of the date. It also helps lower stress and anxiety levels, so both people feel more comfortable around each other. To form a connection, you must have a fun and enjoyable time together. And, guess what? It doesn’t matter if you go out on the town or stay home and watch Netflix, the goal of dating is to get to know each other on a deeper level. With a deep connection, you can form a strong bond between you and the other person…one that will carry you well into the future.

Enhance your life and relationships

Dating also helps spark romance and keeps it burning brightly. So, dating regularly can be a great way to enhance your life and relationship. It is important to note that social isolation, a lack of connections with others, limited interactions, and loneliness can trigger depression and anxiety in some people. These factors are also cited as some of the main reasons for break-ups and divorces.

First date ideas

Although dating is important for a variety of reasons, that first date is the most important one of them all. Now you are probably wondering how you can create an epic first date… Well, the truth is, coming up with awesome, cool, romantic, fun, and quirky first date ideas can be challenging. Check out the actionable steps to help you find magical first date ideas – regardless of where you go and what you do. 

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You can learn more about first date ideas by reading the following articles, reviewed to be the best by our professionals: 54 Date Ideas for Your Date Night by The Knot, 21 First Date Ideas by Lifehack, 25+ First Date Ideas That Don’t Involve Coffee or the Movies by Red Book, and 50 Fun First Date Ideas on a Budget by More.


Make it a coffee or tea date

I’m pretty sure most people love coffee, so what is a better first date than a coffee one? The great thing about most coffee shops is they are set-up so you can have an intimate conversation with your date. Another benefit? You can practically stay as long as you want – be it an hour or 4 hours – and no one is going to “kick you out!”
Then, there’s the fact that you can be in your own little world together, but still have other people around – in case the date goes south. So, suggest going to Starbucks or your local Mom and Pop coffee shop for the first date – it’s low-key and there’s coffee, so that’s a plus, right? Wait…but what if you don’t drink coffee? Well, most coffee shops also sell a variety of teas and juices, along with hot chocolate, pastries, cookies, bagels, and sandwiches, so grab one of these alternatives instead.
The goal of a first date is to get to know another person better. It’s also a time to decide if you are compatible and if there will be a second date. It kind of resembles a job interview. You are both interviewing each other for the position of “partner.” By going to a coffee shop on your first date, you are able to really talk to each other – without a lot of distractions taking your attention away.


Go to a vineyard

This suggestion wouldn’t come to mind for a lot of people, but going to a vineyard would most likely be a lot of fun. It would also probably be extremely romantic – especially if you go at sunset. And, if you are anxious about your first date, going to a vineyard will give you a mutual topic to discuss as you explore the terrain and taste the delicious wines – especially if one or both of you enjoy wine.
This is also an excellent way to learn each other’s interests and learn something new – together. Some vineyards that are definitely worth checking out – if you’re in the area are: Chateau Potelle, Napa Valley, California, Silverado Vineyard, Napa Valley, California, Paumanok Vineyards – Riverhead, New York, and Biltmore, Asheville, North Carolina.
If you or your date is a ‘wine aficionado,’ but the other one is a novice, either you or your date can teach the other about the fine arts of wines, while you tour the beautiful vineyard.



Do you or your date like to cook? If so, maybe you should sign-up for a couples cooking class. Cooking together can be a lot of fun and a great way to bond and learn something new together. Plus, who doesn’t love to eat? So, why not prepare, cook, and eat a good 4-course meal together? Are you hungry yet? But what if you like to cook – and eat – but you don’t want to do it with a room full of people?
In other words, what if you are looking for a more intimate setting?  Well, why not prepare a dish at one of your homes? Grab a gourmet cookbook or find a website full of food recipes and sit down and pick one with a lot of steps. Why a lot of steps? Because, it will give you both a chance to see how well you can work together and how each one of you works under “pressure.”
Make sure the dishes (appetizers, salad, main dish, and dessert) aren’t too complex, because it’ll become tedious over time. Remember, you’re going for fun and memorable – not frustrating and irritating. The good thing about cooking together for your first date is it takes all of the angst away from the experience. If you make a mistake – so what? Laugh about it and keep it moving. P.S. Don’t forget the wine!


Try Netflix

What if you are just not a social type of person? What if you are more like a stay-at-home-and-chill type of person? Well, that’s cool. You can do a “Netflix and Pizza” type of first date. Make sure you feel comfortable enough to be cooped up in the house with your date. If you were friends first or casual acquaintances, who have “hung out” here-and-there, you most likely have nothing to worry about.
However, if you’ve only talked to this person online and you really don’t know anything about him or her, going to his or her home for a “Netflix and Pizza” the first night may not be the best idea.  If you, by chance, decide to hedge your bets and go for it anyway, give a friend or loved one your date’s name, social media user ID, license plate number, phone number(s), email address, physical description, age, height, weight, and physical address…in other words, be cautious.
Note: “Netflix and Pizza” does not have to mean the same as “Netflix and Chill.” If you feel comfortable having sex with your date – then go for it. But, if you don’t, then “Netflix and Pizza” means just what it says – nothing more and nothing less.
If a “chill type” of date is more your speed – and you feel comfortable being enclosed with your date – stay in, watch a movie together, and order pizza. It’s a great way to get a vibe on your date and learn more about him or her. Just be careful and tell someone who you are with and where you are.


Do a couple’s message

A couples massage is a good way to ease those first date jitters – together. In fact, it’s probably one of the best ways to relax on a first date. The only downside is that you probably won’t learn much about each other… You’ll be too immersed in the “massage experience” to talk about anything…really. But, other than that, I guarantee it will be the best first date you’ve ever had.


Belly laugh together

If you don’t like to laugh, you’re a Scrooge. No, seriously, laughter is a window to the soul. It also comes with a ton of benefits, such as a better mood, stress relief, happiness and joy, optimism, and it even reduced hypertension.
When is the last time you belly laughed? If it has been a while, you are sorely in need of a good laugh. So, why don’t you go to a comedy club for your first date? I promise that after you’ve laughed through a 60 minute comedy set, you’ll feel closer than ever, and you’ll have some pretty funny memories from the night.
What are the best comedy clubs in the US? I’m glad you asked – here are the top four: Acme Comedy Company, Minneapolis, Minnesota, The American Comedy Company, San Diego, California, The Comedy Inn, Miami, Florida, and Laughing Skull Lounge, Atlanta, Georgia.
Laughter is a great bonding tool. There will be more laughing than talking on a first date at a comedy club, but you can always grab dinner and/or drinks afterwards and relive the great time you had at the club.


Try glamping

If you are trying to think of something a little eccentric and quirky for your first date, you may want to consider going “glamping.” What the heck is “glamping?” Well, I’m glad you asked – it’s camping from inside.
In other words, it’s kind of like “roughing it,” but from indoors. An example of “glamping” is going to the mountains of Gatlinburg, Tennessee – but staying in a cozy cabin, complete with a hot tub, a garden bathtub with jets, a king-size bed, and lots of indoor activities like arcade games, darts, air hockey, and a pool table.
Oh, and we can’t forget all of the television programs you can endure – including Netflix, of course. I like to call “glamping,” “classy camping.”  You get to enjoy nature in the comfort of your fully-furnished cabin. Sounds like an awesome first date to me.
Note: Once again, do not go off with anyone you barely know without telling a friend or loved one where you are going, who you are going with, when you are expected to come back, what your date looks like, along with his or her contact information and license plate. In other words, be safe – and do not take unnecessary risks.

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Dr. R. Y. Langham

Dr. R. Y. Langham

Ph.D. in Family Psychology

Ree has a Master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy (M.M.F.T.) and a Ph.D. in Family Psychology. She spent over ten years counseling families, couples, individuals, and children on adjustment issues such as blended families, same-sex couples, dysfunctional family relationships, relationship issues, etc. Now she writes for famous health organizations and is a published author.
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