Have You Ever Been Called “Too Emotional?”

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When was the first time someone made you feel bad about expressing your emotions or called you “too emotional”? For most of us, it happens in childhood. A friend laughed at you for crying, a coach told you to toughen up, or a parent put you in a time out for reacting too much. We may not consciously remember these instances, but they are still present in our subconscious.

We are taught from a young age that expressing emotions is a sign of weakness and that holding them in is a sign of strength. This idea has forced many of us to develop coping mechanisms to avoid feeling emotions fully. Some people drink, smoke, pick fights with others, or keep a busy schedule just so they don’t have time to be in their own heads.

If this sounds like you, know that you’re not alone. Because we’ve been made to feel ashamed of experiencing emotions deeply and fully, many of us never developed a way of processing those emotions and working through them. If you believe that not processing them is working for you, I invite you to take another look at how these unresolved feelings are currently showing up in your life.

Is it even possible to be “too emotional”?

Do you find yourself constantly stressed and anxious? Do you avoid time in silence with your own mind? Do you get angry at little things that you know shouldn’t be bothering you as much as they do? Do you struggle with maintaining healthy relationships and friendships?

More often than not we try to explain these issues and put blame on our situation or the other people in it. In reality, we all need to take more responsibility for working through our own emotions.

Have you ever been in a relationship where you get into a fight and that person stops talking to you for hours, maybe days at a time? In the moment, that person often comes off as the strong one. Your tears do not make them cry, your words only push them away more, and you feel like they don’t even love you. The fight is not bothering them and they can go on living their life without thinking of you. You feel weak, crying in your bed, hoping that they will text or call you.

Emotions make us strong

You need to understand something so important about being the emotional one in that situation: you are strong.

You are strong because you are able to feel things so deeply, you are able to be in pain with someone you love and still confront the situation. You may not be able to change that person to react the way you want them to, but you need to find comfort in your strength. You cannot force someone to be on the same page as you, but you can give them the space they need to heal and hope that they will eventually begin to work on their capacity to deal with emotions.

When someone has developed the coping mechanism of running away from their feelings, you have to understand that their wound is much deeper than the argument that just surfaced. They have had years of suppressed emotions that just came up and it is important to know that this may not be about how they feel about you.

It’s time to rewrite the story for what it means to be a strong human being. Emotions are our biggest strength. Every time you choose to feel, process, and heal yourself, you come out the other end even stronger than you were before.

Much Love,

Micaela

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Do some personal reflection

Do you find yourself constantly stressed and anxious? Do you avoid time in silence with your own mind? Do you get angry at little things that you know shouldn’t be bothering you as much as they do? Do you struggle with maintaining healthy relationships and friendships? Think about your answers to these questions and reflect on where you are struggling if you feel like you are “too emotional” or having trouble processing your emotions.

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Get expert help

If you or a loved one is looking for help with dealing with emotions, please do not hesitate to book a consultation.

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About the Author


Micaela Mariner

Micaela Mariner

Holistic Life Coach

Micaela Mariner is a holistic life coach, yoga teacher, and branding mentor. She works with individuals to help them address all areas of life that leave them feeling overwhelmed, stagnant, and unhappy. Through 1:1 coaching sessions, she uses emotional processing techniques, decision making guidance, meditations, journal prompts, & weekly task lists to help her clients find freedom from patterns that are no longer serving them.

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